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You’ve beautifully expressed your experience and emotions in the words. I could feel the sensitivity in the words as well! I took good amount of time to read and understand each word. This article is like a gentle/sensitive push for someone who looks at it as a weakness and the suggestion that you’ve shared is very practical and easy. Thank you so much for writing this and sharing with us all! PS: I’m planning to translate it in Punjabi so that I can share it with my Mom! 🌸🙏🏽💝

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This morning I read your post to my 95 year old special mom. She has been listening to an audio book of famous quotes from folks like W. Churchill & E. Roosevelt. She welcomed your words Mr.P., saying that she thought she rather liked your persepctive. She teaches me that it's never too late to learn. She asked me to say thank you to you, up there in your cabin in the woods.

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Awww! That is so sweet of you to read my words to your 95-year-old mom. I am joyfully touched by receiving her warm feedback. Please say a big thank you to her from me.

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She smiled a big hearted smile while I demonstrated one of your dance steps. (my Bhangra style has a lot to be desired)

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We’ve been conditioned to deny ourselves the emotions that make us feel vulnerable to others. Human emotions that we think will be viewed buy others as a way into our tender souls where we can be manipulated or hurt. It is important to realize that sometimes one must unlearn unhealthy teachings and find yourself through forgiveness and understanding of your needs without becoming selfish or self centred. Anger, sadness, happiness, contentment and sensitivity to others are some of lessons for us to embrace. Our life journey is for us all individually to experience in the way that makes us feel happy and fulfilled. Making that transition is integral to our emotional acceptance of ourselves. Gurdeep, you have truly embraced your happiness through unlearning the lessons that do not benefit your own happiness. This enlightenment allows us to learn the benefits of your life lessons opening opportunities for all to benefit from.

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I really appreciate your wisdom and approach to life. I agree dance is a wonderful way to feel emotions without thinking and analysing them, rather being with them without judgment. It changes the experience of them, from being captive to emotions to being fully present with them. It’s a very different and often nurturing space. So is being in nature 🙏

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Thank you, I needed to hear this today. I really did.

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I am from the USA. I was blessed by my experience of backpackng around the world in from 1975-1977 and even saw Northern India, although not Punjab. My tent was like your cabin. I was a very different person when I returned home. I ended up in a different state than I had grown up in. I found people so closed and narrow most of the time. Here it seems like being sensitive or vulnerable was viewed as weakness. I did work in an acute care hospital and there people behaved differently. Being in crisis changes people. Over the last five decades I have seen this culture change, particularly among younger persons. But, the growing attitude of "I am right" in our political discourse pushes so far backwards. But, as always, a single candle can pierce the darkness. Each one of us who embrasses joy, sensitivity and positivity can not just improve our own life, we can make others curious, which I believe is the first step to changing your life. I wish you many blessings. Thank you for your good works.

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This is lovely. I agree completely.

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Hello, Gurdeep! Another terrific article! I learn so much from you! You put all these emotions and character traits into ways I can understand. I especially like it when you compare about feeling or situation to something. Thank you! Love you! ❤️

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Another wonderful column. I rarely feel seen or understood but in this column I recognized so much of myself. Thank you Gurdeep! I agree that movement (walking 5 miles daily and yoga for me) is key. After many, many years of working on myself, unable to find a therapist who didn't try to put me in a box that didn't fit, trying to understand why I'm the way I am and why I feel so isolated, I recently discovered therapist Imi Lo's books and writing about smart, sensitive people and it's been helpful, if others are searching.

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Thank you. Yesterday I danced and danced just for movement and the emotions and joy and release that my mind couldn't comprehend was healing

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Beautifully written compassionately shared and understood. I thank you❣️

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